Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 I’m looking for some advice on my daughters ballet. She’s been at the same school since she was 2 and has danced there for 5 years now, she’s almost 8 and still hasn’t sat her primary ballet exam. The principal teacher told me in January this year that she’d be sitting in November 19 and now I’ve been told, without any explanation that she won’t be sitting it until March 20, by which point she’ll be at the age when most of the girls in the dance school sit Grade 1. I know it’s not always important to do exams but I’m worried about this affecting my daughters confidence. When is it normal to sit a RAD primary ballet exam? Thanks xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anon2 Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 Hopefully one of the moderators will see your post soon and move it to Doing Dance so you get some advice. Long time since my children were that age but do know my Dd skipped primary exam. Does sound like your daughter being held back so I would be asking for an explanation. Often teachers busy between classes, sometimes better to email or call. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan McNulty Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 Hello Moonbeam and welcome to the Forum! I have moved your post to the main Doing Dance section. I agree with Jane, I would approach the teacher for an explanation and advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Picturesinthefirelight Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 My daughter didn't start ballet until she was 6, almost 7 so she skipped primary too. I really think you need to speak to the teacher. I wuold say that the age of 6/7 is the usual age in which to take the primary exam. By the age of 7/8 most are in a Grade 1 class. Is there any reason for this that you can think of (lack of concentration to get through the exam, co-ordination issues or nerves about performing in front of a stranger etc?) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebird22 Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 Have other children in the class taken the exam and moved up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 I’m not sure to be fair, I do know when she sat her pre primary exam she was with children in the year below her at school but I think that might have been due to numbers for the exam sitting which may yet again be the case this time but we haven’t been told anything other than she’s doing it in March 2020 now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 Thanks Jane I think we’re going to try and speak to the teacher tomorrow, I think it’ll be easier face to face. I can’t think of any reason why they would be holding her back as she is a decent dancer and as far as I am aware has been progressing well and working hard, that’s the last comment I had from the teacher when I asked when she’d be sitting the exam and at that point I was told November 19. I don’t see any reason for her to continue a primary class for another 6 months, she’ll be bored if they’re learning the same things for 2 years, I would think. I also know other dance schools wouldn’t dream of putting someone her age in a primary class and would instantly move them onto grade 1. I hope I get some answers soon. Thank you all for your replies, I really appreciate it xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
margarite Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 There's the possibility that the teacher might have her age/year group wrong? Is she small for her age? My DD had to be slightly fast-tracked as the school principal realised that they had her down as a year younger - she took her Grade 1 at 8.5, but then only did Grade 2 for two terms and joined her peer group in G3 when she was 9. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 I know when I spoke to the principal in January she referred to her as primary 2 when she was in primary 3 so I do think she has her in the wrong age group, however she was reluctant to budge on this point and when I questioned it further I was told they were right and basically if I didn’t like it I had the option of taking the girls to another dance school if I didn’t trust their judgment. I’m not a pushy mum but I am getting a bit frustrated with this as my daughter believes she’s sitting this exam in November as that’s what they’ve been telling her but they haven’t told her she’s not sitting it. I definitely need to talk to them tomorrow about this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Picturesinthefirelight Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 Due to a change of syllabus half way through and various other factors my dd was in a Grade 3 class for 2 years. In hindsight it was absolutely the wrong thing for her and I wish I had moved her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HowMuch! Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 My youngest has just turned 7 (summer holidays) and took her RAD primary exam earlier this year when 6. My eldest is almost 10, recently gone into RAD grade 3, and if I recall took her grade 1 exam when she was 8, grade 2 before the summer. I’d push them to move her up to grade 1, especially if ballet is something she wants to take seriously. Grades aren’t important for some things, but confidence is. My eldest DD felt ‘behind’ the rest of the children at an audition last year, not because of her ability but because she’d not had the opportunity to try out more complex steps and sequences yet. I talked to her teacher about it and she was very quickly entered for her Grade 2 and moved into grade 3 with some classmates. ( i hope all that makes sense.) The most important consideration is enjoyment though. Especially when they’re so young. If she’s not enjoying the lessons then perhaps take her for some trials elsewhere? Much love x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 When I received the message that told me I could move them I almost did I was so annoyed at the way it had been put. My thoughts after the message were even if I move her she won’t be able to sit in March so I just thought hang in there don’t lose your patience and she’ll sit her exam in November and hopefully they’ll fast track through grade 1 so she can be in with children her age and obviously now I’m thinking maybe moving her in January would have been a good idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 I’ll speak to her tonight to see how she’s feeling about ballet and if there’s girls in grade 1 that she’s friends with as I don’t think there’s many girls in her primary class that are her age. My youngest just turned 6 and I’ve been told she won’t be sitting pre primary until March next year too. I’ve always thought I could trust their judgement and maybe it was a confidence thing but if they don’t let the girls do their exams then their confidence isn’t going to improve. Both of my girls are quite quiet and I definitely feel my eldest is needing moved on to boost her confidence. I can’t see that it’s ability as she got a distinction in her modern exam, I know they’re different and I don’t get to see their ballet often. Cross your fingers for me tomorrow xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SugarPlum2000 Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 @Moonbeamhow long has your DD been in the primary class for? The RAD specs have a guideline on how many hours a child should spend on each grade before taking the exam and moving onto the next and it states that for the Primary exam they should have 40 hours of teaching. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mummy twinkle toes Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 Many schools do not even do pre-primary/primary. I would suggest moving her. She will not be missing out by commencing at grade 1. It is more important for you and your Dd to be at a school where you can communicate with the teacher and feel settled. Over the years we have stayed too long in one school or another. We stayed because we didn’t want to upset people or hoped it would get better. Dd2 was being held in grade 2 from age of 8-10, for example. When asked why we had a multitude of excuses from not ready, needs to work on strength to “we do not enter until they can get distinction”. She is now 12 and taking her grade 6 with a different school. Moving my children as been the best thing we have done. Good luck. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
margarite Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 (edited) There was another girl at DD's old dance school whose mum chose not to query why she was with much younger children and her daughter ended up in Grade 2 until she was nearly 11, despite getting mid 80s in her Grade 1 exam. I think everyone has a fear of being 'that mum' but sometimes you just have to speak out. Edited September 13, 2019 by margarite Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 33 minutes ago, SugarPlum2000 said: @Moonbeamhow long has your DD been in the primary class for? The RAD specs have a guideline on how many hours a child should spend on each grade before taking the exam and moving onto the next and it states that for the Primary exam they should have 40 hours of teaching. She sat her pre primary exam in March 18 so by the time it comes around to March 20 that’ll be 6 terms so roughly 80 hours of classes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 19 minutes ago, Mummy twinkle toes said: Many schools do not even do pre-primary/primary. I would suggest moving her. She will not be missing out by commencing at grade 1. It is more important for you and your Dd to be at a school where you can communicate with the teacher and feel settled. Over the years we have stayed too long in one school or another. We stayed because we didn’t want to upset people or hoped it would get better. Dd2 was being held in grade 2 from age of 8-10, for example. When asked why we had a multitude of excuses from not ready, needs to work on strength to “we do not enter until they can get distinction”. She is now 12 and taking her grade 6 with a different school. Moving my children as been the best thing we have done. Good luck. I know how you feel, I have had similar conversations with myself bout wanted her to remain at the same school but you’re right if I can’t even have a conversation with them about it without feeling they’re going to get upset with me then maybe it’s time to look for another school. Thank you xx 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 9 minutes ago, margarite said: There was another girl at DD's old dance school whose mum chose not to query why she was with much younger children and her daughter ended up in Grade 2 until she was nearly 11, despite getting mid 80s in her Grade 1 exam. I think everyone has a fear of being 'that mum' but sometimes you just have to speak out. I know what you mean. I had already queried it and was basically told if I didn’t like it to move them. I’m not looking forward to the next conversation given the response I got in January. My eldest will be in Grade 2 until she’s 13 now as they normally have 18 months between each grade is what I was told when I queried it before which I think is too long and waiting 2 years seems even sillier x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HowMuch! Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 2 hours ago, Mummy twinkle toes said: Many schools do not even do pre-primary/primary. I would suggest moving her. She will not be missing out by commencing at grade 1. It is more important for you and your Dd to be at a school where you can communicate with the teacher and feel settled. Over the years we have stayed too long in one school or another. We stayed because we didn’t want to upset people or hoped it would get better. Dd2 was being held in grade 2 from age of 8-10, for example. When asked why we had a multitude of excuses from not ready, needs to work on strength to “we do not enter until they can get distinction”. She is now 12 and taking her grade 6 with a different school. Moving my children as been the best thing we have done. Good luck. That’s a very good point! My eldest didn’t do any exams until Grade 1 and I only agreed to my youngest doing primary because she begged me! Also, i moved my eldest from a ballet school after finding out they’d merged the primary, pre-primary and pre-school classes together and she spent all lesson skipping with 3 year olds. I made my polite goodbyes and moved on. We’ve never looked back, she’s now at a lovely local school doing RAD and their own associates plus 2 non-syllabus classes each week elsewhere, my youngest is at the same school having fun on a more recreational route but still getting high quality reaching. I would go to a few trials though. It was very clear at a trial class how different local classes can be! I looked for happy children, gentle teachers and a relaxed yet purposeful environment. I also asked to watch classes in higher grades which showed more about the overall feel of the place, classes got smaller but more dedicated which was great to see. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SissonneDoublee Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 Do the higher grades (5-8) and vocational grades appear on the timetable at your DDs’ school? I wonder if the teacher is delaying moving students up because she only caters for the lower grades... Grade 2 at age 13 is very, very low. You would expect a DC to be in grade 5+ or vocational grades (inter-foundation onwards) by then. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 I think one of the bigger issues we face is the availability of RAD dancing schools in the area. I’ve always been proud to say the girls go to a RAD ballet school but I’m starting to wonder if I should have picked somewhere else that they would have progressed. I know it’s not always important but I know it’ll start to affect their confidence when they start noticing others in the classes above them that are the same age as them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 I can’t see grade 8 on the timetable but I do see the others there. I really can’t work out what the benefit of 2 years pre school a year and a half pre primary and 2 years primary have if girls her age can start in higher classes than she’s in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SissonneDoublee Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 RAD is an excellent training system, but if it is tying you to a school that is not working for you it is well worth looking at other options. My daughter studied ISTD ballet until she started at vocational school for Year 7, and was able to transfer to RAD without any problems. ISTD has more unset work in the lower grades, which is great for audition preparation, and there is greater emphasis on understanding the French terminology. It should definitely be seen as a worthy alternative. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mummy twinkle toes Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 Moonbeam if you roughly state the area you are within then people can recommend good schools to you. Grade 2 at 13 is very slow progress. Most children at 13 would be studying interfoundation/intermediate and are usually somewhere in grades 4-6. RAD is a good syllabus but there are many others just as good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 Thank you it’s good to hear about other methods of training, we just put the girls where we were recommended by a friend of a friend that is a dance teacher so I have nothing to compare it to. I’m still hoping to have an open discussion about the future plans for exams and once I know what the plans are I will be in a position to make a decision. I might be wrong with my timings, maybe once they move past grade 1 they speed up a bit but the earliest for grade 1 will be just before 10 with this delay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParentTaxi Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 DD is at an all ISTD school - so does ISTD ballet as well as tap and modern theatre. It's good quality training - alumni at BRB and a variety of dance colleges (usually at 18). She has taken an exam each year, pretty much, though obviously it slows down at the higher vocational grades . She would have been Grade 4 or so at the end of primary? If you are looking at Grade 1 at 13, you do almost certainly need to find another school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruby Foo Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 3 hours ago, Moonbeam said: I can’t see grade 8 on the timetable but I do see the others there. I really can’t work out what the benefit of 2 years pre school a year and a half pre primary and 2 years primary have if girls her age can start in higher classes than she’s in. Pre- primary and primary are lovely for developing musicality, sense of poise, performance and fun. They are not necessary though. It’s gr 1 that’s THE most important beginning of building the foundations of good ballet technique - correct posture, use of turn out, correct use of feet and arms. Wherever she goes, try to ensure that she has plenty time in Grade 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 Thanks Valentina, it’s very interesting you say that as the reason I was given for her spending a year and a half in each of the pre primary and primary classes was to build the foundations and now it’ll be 2 years in the primary class which I’m not sure of the benefit. I am hoping I can get her into a grade 1 class soon. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drdance Posted September 13, 2019 Share Posted September 13, 2019 To give a teachers perspective - there may other reasons why the exam is not happening in November such as not having enough other pupils (in other grades) to run a session. To run an RAD day you have to have a minimum of 3 hours otherwise you have to team up with another nearby teacher. I'm having a session in November but I'm worried about it because a lot of my kids were doing show work all last term and I don't know how much of the syllabus they will remember. Yet some of them will have been in their grade over a year and if I delay it another term then that feels like too long. It's never an easy decision but thats why the RAD offer class awards as well as exams. I almost always use the class awards at primary as there's no need for them to do the full exam, and the exam is challenging for most 6/7 year olds unless they come twice a week or do lots of dancing and festivals etc (which my kids at my school don't do). If you don't mind your daughter not sitting the exam, ask your teacher if she can just move up to grade 1. Or if you want her to have the exam experience could I suggest the class award? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 13, 2019 Author Share Posted September 13, 2019 I think it might be to do with the numbers then, I just can’t understand why they didn’t put her in for it in March when they did have enough to do a RAD session as she had been in that class a year and at the rehearsal class for pre primary she was miles ahead of the other pupils as she had been in pre primary for almost 2 years and all but her had been in the class less than a year. I don’t have a huge desire that she has to have all of her certificates especially when it’s just the primary exam so if they’ll move her to grade 1 without it I would happily do that as she dances a lot and has other exam experience as she does modern and tap too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbeam Posted September 14, 2019 Author Share Posted September 14, 2019 Update is there’s no budging on the class she’s in and they don’t have enough numbers to have a RAD examination this November. Now I need to work out if it’s just me being annoyed about it and what’s best for my daughters xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drdance Posted September 14, 2019 Share Posted September 14, 2019 While the numbers thing makes total sense, I'd question why the teacher is not letting her move up to grade 1, especially due to her age. Fair enough, she probably wasn't ready to do the exam last March but to hang around for another year seems odd to me. But out of fairness to the teacher, I don't know your daughter nor her teacher so I can't really comment. Only you know your daughter well enough but as a comparison, my bunch of 'very average' grade 1 children are 7-8 years old. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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