Cara in NZ Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Does anyone else have this problem? I don't mind DD wearing skimpy shorts over a leotard when just going to and from the car for dancing, or at studio/theatre. But last week she came out of school (not in uniform yet) in shorts so short that they could barely be seen below her sweatshirt. She said she'd changed for PE. I said they were too short, and even though at 12 she is slender and still fits age 10 clothes, sometimes they are not suitable to be worn in public!Without wanting to get into discussions about sex/feminism, I just wanted to know how other parents deal with this. I love her being so comfortable with her body, but am feeling the need to differentiate dancewear from what she might wear to go shopping with friends. I hope I don't sound old-fashioned (and I have already raised two non DC to adulthood fairly successfully), but I am aware that at this age they may need some gentle guidelines! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taxi4ballet Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 I know where you are coming from - they spend so much time in only a leotard, that wearing very little comes naturally to them, and they aren't at all self-conscious about it (a good thing I suppose, in a way). It doesn't occur to them that the tiny strappy t-shirt and miniscule skirt combo probably isn't the best thing for wearing to the shops! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Picturesinthefirelight Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 We have a no underwear/dancewear on show rule but apart from that it's mostly up to dd. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahw Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 We are the same as pictures 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinMM Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Well look I know I'm an adult and not a child but I'm continually bemused these days by seeing other grown ups out doing the shopping in gear that I would only wear to a dance class!! Last summer I asked a lady in Brighton where she got the top she was wearing over her leggings as I thought it would be great for ballet class!! This probably makes it difficult for children to see what "acceptable" dress in the street is these days. A difficult one! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Picturesinthefirelight Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 and Primark leggings are classified as/worn as tights, not leggings! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
t_rose Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 DD is usually pretty good (although current fashions are for some quite skimpy outfits). She always wears shorts under skirts & dresses - she's not always the most ladylike & will dance and do cartwheels/walk overs without any thought to what she's wearing! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2dancersmum Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Thankfully we don't really have this problem. DD's academic school does not allow anyone to leave school in PE kit - they must always be dressed in normal school uniform. For the ballet school the principal has always operated a no underwear or dance wear on show policy - even for just going from the car into the school. In winter she is able to just remind students of the importance of keeping warm and is not at risk of them feeling self conscious but in summer she will call students aside for a quick word about suitable attire for ladies. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahw Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Good for her!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katymac Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 I wonder if she would have a word with my DD When she was 14 (or maybe 15) she crossed London by tube wearing lack leotard,black tights, flipflops & her black leather jacket I didn't know what to say!! Mind you, she is a bit better now & tbh compared to her contemporaries "going out clubbing" she is quite well covered 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
munchkin16 Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 But dancewear is so multi purpose! I always wear shorts underneath skirts and dresses (habit from my musical theatre days) but I have been known to wear a leotard out clubbing with denim shorts because it was pretty... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cara in NZ Posted November 3, 2015 Author Share Posted November 3, 2015 Wow, I get up on the other side of the world and you have all been so busy giving me helpful answers – thank you!We have NO rules about street attire at the dance studio and the younger girls often put a coat on over their ballet uniform and walk out the door – IN THEIR BALLET SHOES!!!! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anondancer_15 Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 I think I'm the opposite aha I basically live in dancewear (as well as at school as I don't have a uniform) but it's all about weird layers haha! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anondancer_15 Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 saying that I have walked home in hot pants and tights having had dance last lesson etc... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tulip Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 My daughter throws on warm up clothes after a ballet class. Joggers and a t shirt, she's done this for years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cara in NZ Posted November 4, 2015 Author Share Posted November 4, 2015 If I make DD put on clothes after class, she gets in the car, announces she's TOO HOT and we drive home on winter evenings with her window wide open (as my punishment) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebird22 Posted November 4, 2015 Share Posted November 4, 2015 When any of the local dance schools have a show on in our city centre, you see hoards of ballet tighted, bunned, leotard wearing, dancers with full make up pigging out in McDonald's, they tend to add shorts or t shirts but the overall look is uncoordinated and attracts lots of strange looks! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petalviolet Posted November 4, 2015 Share Posted November 4, 2015 Make up is a particular issue for me as DD is no where old enough to be wearing it. I remember taking her home at ten in the evening from a performance in London and there was no time to remove anything we just had to run for the train. She had her winter coat on and wanted her hair out so no real sign of dance wear or that she'd been performing but had loads and loads of make up on. I did get some funny looks and I kept wanting to say 'she was at a thing' 'a dance thing, OK?' 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taxi4ballet Posted November 4, 2015 Share Posted November 4, 2015 Make up is a particular issue for me as DD is no where old enough to be wearing it. I remember taking her home at ten in the evening from a performance in London and there was no time to remove anything we just had to run for the train. She had her winter coat on and wanted her hair out so no real sign of dance wear or that she'd been performing but had loads and loads of make up on. I did get some funny looks and I kept wanting to say 'she was at a thing' 'a dance thing, OK?' Reminds me of a friend of mine who had been performing in an Old Time Music Hall production. He stopped at a petrol station on the way home, quite forgetting that he still had full stage make-up on (including a stick-on twirly moustache) and it wasn't until he got home and looked in the mirror that he realised why the cashier had been looking at him so strangely! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pups_mum Posted November 4, 2015 Share Posted November 4, 2015 My DD was dancing in a festival at half term and we went into town whilst she still had full make up and "big hair". As she was also wearing a leather jacket, skinny jeans and heeled boots the whole effect was rather bizarre. (If any of you watch Hollyoaks I had the distinct feeling that I was having lunch with Grace Black!) Fortunately there were numerous other peculiarly attired dancers out and about which made things a bit better - for me anyway as DD seems quite oblivious to the confused looks of the local population. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TabbyCool Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 Last week I was in a hurry to catch my bus after ballet class, so I put my boots and coat on top of my ballet wear and rushed out to the bus stop. Turns out I needn't have bothered rushing so much because the bus came early and I missed it, I then realised it just wasn't cold enough for my coat, but all I had underneath was a black leotard, black tights and a chiffon wrap skirt. Me being me, I took my coat off and put my dress on top of my leotard at the bus stop, then once I was on the bus I removed the wrap skirt. I was too hot to bother with decorum! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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