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  1. Apologies @Dance*is*life - I must be confusing you with someone else. I think I may be losing my marbles!
  2. If I recall rightly from previous posts @Dance*is*life is in Australia, which has so far had just over 100 Covid-19 related deaths in total since the outbreak began. It is great to hear of something approaching normal life returning anywhere and I really hope our Australasian friends continue to stay safe as their lockdowns ease. But Australia and New Zealand are some of the least badly affected countries in the world so far and the UK is one of the worst. We are still seeing more deaths per day that Australia has had in total. It is lovely to hear positive stories and it does indeed give us hope, but I think we need to bear in mind that the background is very different. Given the severity of the outbreak here, and the fact that we are approaching what would be the summer break here anyway, I think we probably do need to prepare ourselves and our children for the fact that there are unlikely to be any face to face classes before September at the earliest. If things improve sooner than anticipated that will be a bonus, but with it becoming clearer that the majority of schoolchildren will not be returning in this academic year, I think it is hard for dance schools, sports clubs etc to do anything different. We have pretty much mentally written off my son's sports season, though he is still training, but for fitness and fun, rather than because he anticipates the return of competition.
  3. @Pinkpip100 I completely understand why you are uncomfortable with the idea that your DD is "better" than the others at her dance school, as it is such an emotive word, but she is definitely "different". Out of all the 10/11 year olds in the country who take dance lessons, only a tiny percentage apply for vocational schools and of those, a very small proportion get as far as finals. Your DD clearly has potential. She is different to the majority of pupils in a typical local dance school and so requires a different approach. Don't be afraid to ask for that, and if her current teacher cannot provide what she needs, do look for additional or alternative provision. Personally, I would expect a good teacher to recognise and nurture potential in a pupil and also to recognise their own strengths and weaknesses. I'm not a dance teacher but I coach at a children's sports club. Like a typical dance school, the majority of our members are "once a week" kids, with a small number of more able and focused children. The latter group all also attend other clubs, regional training sessions etc and in fact we actively encourage them to do that. I don't see it as any slight on our club or my ability as a coach - we want *all* our kids to enjoy themselves and reach their full potential and that sometimes means signposting them elsewhere, both for the more performance focused coaching and contact with other similar children. Being a big fish in a small pond is generally unhelpful in the long term. It really is fine to look for more- don't feel that you are being unreasonable.
  4. I would also let the teacher know that @Peony Your kids' teacher may well be thinking that s/he is doing something "wrong" and that maybe your children are doing someone else's classes because they are better. They would probably rather know that your children aren't engaging with any online classes than be left wondering. I think that's important on a number of levels, including as glowlight says, giving the teacher some reassurance that it is the medium that is the problem rather than them, and giving them some understanding of where their pupils are likely to be up to when normal classes resume. If the teacher knows that online classes don't do it for your children, maybe s/he can think of some different suggestions? By coincidence I've recently had exactly this conversation with a teacher that I am close to. Numbers at her online classes have dropped off somewhat and her immediate reaction was that its because she's not teaching well enough and her pupils must be going elsewhere. In reality there are probably multiple different reasons. Some children will be like yours and simply not enjoy online classes at all. I think at the beginning, even though it was obvious that this is a serious situation, there was a bit of an element of fun and excitement to trying out all these new types of classes and being off school, but as time has gone on, the novelty has worn off and lots of people, adults and children, are getting less enthusiastic about all kinds of things. Some families will be struggling more than others for space. Others will now have 2 parents working from home and multiple children homeschooling with a broadband connection that just can't cope. Some will be ill or have a sick family member who needs peace and quiet currently. Some families, sadly, will be starting to experience real financial hardship and dance classes may have become a luxury that they just cannot afford. There are so many possible reasons, some of which the teachers might be able to do something about and others not. But if they don't know they definitely can't help. Not that I am advocating sending a message that says "Your classes are dreadful. My children are bored stiff." But even negative feedback can be constructive if given well.
  5. Well said Alison. I know exactly how hard the "ordinary" dance teachers that I know are working and how much they care about their pupils. I do think it is wonderful that well known people are doing what they can to support young dancers, and giving their time and expertise freely. I am sure they also face many of the challenges that regular teachers do, but I do think that there are additional stresses when there are personal relationships between teachers and pupils/parents, and a business to keep afloat too. So I would share your plea for people to continue to support their core teachers if they possibly can. And not just financially. Please give them some feedback. I'm in a similar position as I've been trying to provide online support in my capacity as a volunteer sports coach. I'm not running a business, but I am trying to keep a club going, and I do genuinely care about the kids and want to give them something of value. It's so much harder and more time consuming to create online content than to deliver normal sessions and there will always be some ideas that work better than others. But it gets pretty demoralising when you get very little feedback. The dance teachers that I am close to have said similar. We are all missing human interaction, and particularly when creating pre recorded content it is quite odd to be talking to a camera with no idea what response there is. A quick message with a suggestion, even if its just can you speak a bit slower or move the camera slightly, or a comment about what you particularly enjoyed will probably help your teacher improve and give them a real boost.
  6. I agree with Mrs Brown. Its disappointing but just chalk it down to experience and move on. The important thing is that the dancers take the learning from these grades and can progress. I imagine the video experience was difficult for all concerned and your pupils did very well to get through it under the circumstances. I don't have any young dancers at home any more, but my son has missed a music exam. Its hard to keep him motivated on pieces that he has been practising for what now feels like eternity, with no new dates scheduled, but he still wants to do the exam to have the recognition for the work he has done. I suspect that by the time the exam comes around he will have gone off the boil,but we shall see. If he had had the chance to do it just before lockdown I think we would have taken it, even though he wasn't quite ready as it would have been better than being left in limbo. I think with dance it us even harder because your pupils will have missed so much by the time they return that I imagine you would have to do quite a lot of work with them before they were exam ready again. That could be quite demotivating I would think. Better that you have the excitment of new grades to look forward to when face to face lessons resume than a possible feeling of " oh no,not this exercise again".
  7. Oh I think you are entitled to complain @Princess dreams That sounds a really stressful situation to be in. I know what you mean though. When you hear about some of the tragedies that have befallen people it does feel bad to get stressed over things like exams and college places, but these things are still very real worries. If you were in hospital with a broken leg the fact that the person in the next bed had 2 broken legs might well make you feel grateful that you weren't more badly injured, but it wouldn't make your pain unimportant. With 3 children at crucial stages of their education and your husband in another country you have a huge amount on your plate. You are doing fantastically well to maintain a positive attitude. I hope you get some good news soon, especially regarding the reserve lists. If it helps at all, there are lots of us here who can relate to at least some of what you are going through - you are not alone.
  8. I was just coming to post the same link as Jane. It seems a bit extreme to be effectively ruling out face to face lectures for a year already. Its a terribly difficult situation for all concerned though - I have no idea what the correct answer is. But given we don't know what is happening from one week to the next at the moment I wouldn't think anyone can really predict what the state of play will be next year. Presumably Cambridge plus other large and well established Universities are going to be better placed to weather the storm than smaller institutions, and are also confident that they will still get students without face to face tuition, but that won't be the case everywhere. And how on earth can subjects with a large practical component be taught remotely long term? It really is a nightmare. My middle child is currently in year 12 and I am at a loss to know what the best thing for him is. He only has a vague idea what he wants to do after A levels and with no chance to visit Universities prior to applying its even harder to decide. If significant numbers of institutions close down there may not even be places for everyone. He's a maths/science geek so I suppose his chances of finding a course are better than some, but there are certainly no guarantees.And goodness knows what the impact might be on fees, funding etc. Its so hard to know what to do for the best. Obviously huge numbers are affected by this crisis in different ways but my heart bleeds for the many bright and talented young people who have had the rug pulled from under them. I still follow my DD's old dance school on social media and was recently reading about the planned destinations of a number of their current pupils. If it isn't hard enough to get offered places and secure funding at the best of times, now they don't know whether they will actually be able to go, or even if all the colleges will survive. Longer term, job prospects look bleaker than ever, with talk of theatres closing and I cannot imagine the cruise industry recovering quickly. It really is like something out of a disaster movie. I keep hoping I am going to wake up and find its all a bad dream.😥
  9. Good point @alison There is so much we simply don't know about the long term effects of this virus. By coincidence I was reading this article earlier. One would hope that professional dancers receive the same kind of care. https://www.cyclingnews.com/news/lotto-soudal-riders-undergo-covid-19-antibody-tests/
  10. Welcome to the forum suedances. I am sure nobody will notice, and even less so, comment. But I can see it might be uncomfortable for your daughter, both physically and emotionally. Would period pants be any use? They seem to be getting very popular and I think they come in a variety of absorbency levels. Might be worth a try.
  11. Congrats to your DD Lemongirl. LSC is a great college. My DD had an offer from there quite a few years ago now and it was mainly the financial side that led to her declining the place. Yes, your DD will be entitled to student finance but you need to check carefully how much. As I say, it is a few years since we were in your position, and things may well have changed, but at the time we could only get a loan for £6k of the fees, which obviously left a significant gap. Plus as meadowblythe says the living expenses are quite high. I don't want to panic you and it may not be the case now anyway, but do read the detail on the financial side of things carefully. We went from "Yaay!" to "Ohhhh...." quite quickly when I started to do the sums. We could have done it actually but DD was adamant that she didn't want her younger siblings to miss out on anything so she chose a less expensive route. I regret it at times to be honest, but its all water under the bridge now and she is happy with how things have turned out, but I do think she would have enjoyed LSC. Good luck to your DD.
  12. It is good to hear about the ingenuity of all these young people, the good humour of the parents and the resillience of everyone! There are no dancers left in our house now but that hasn't stopped the house being taken over by various activities. This afternoon my husband was videoconferencing for hours in the office 💻whilst son number 1 was doing piano practice in the dining room 🎹and son number 2 was cycling in the living room🚴‍♂️ As it had stopped raining I thought I would escape to the garden for a while 🌻 so I picked my way through the airfix models being built in the hall 🛫and past the bits of boat in the porch⛵ only to find 14 ducklings waddling round the lawn. 🦆They were super cute but their Mum made it clear that she didn't welcome my presence. I had to retreat back indoors to the kitchen - the only room that nobody else seems to have claimed yet! Seriously though, I do feel very lucky to have so much space. Whilst it can get a bit annoying to have the house turned upside down, I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like for families with young children living in, say, flats with limited room and no access to safe outside spaces. Let's hope that things do continue to stabilise so that there is some relief for all those who are suffering in different ways and a return to normality for our children and ourselves. Stay strong everyone 💙
  13. It's definitely not always been on the list. A friend of my DD's went to KS Dance a few years ago and there was definitely no government funding available then.
  14. They look lovely B4B. Are you able to post to an address different to the person who is paying? I'd quite like to send my DD a little pick me up but I can't get out to the post office myself at present.
  15. I agree with everyone else. It is a normal reaction to the circumstances and probably doesn't really mean she has lost her love for dance. I think that most youngsters are getting fed up of the situation. At first I think there was a degree of almost excitement for "online everything" and being off school. But as time has gone on the enormity of the situation has hit home to those who are old enough to understand and the frustration has intensified for those who aren't. I overheard my 16 year old talking to one of his friends on the phone the other night, saying that he really wished they could get back to school, and he is missing the teachers, which is something I never thought I would hear. The novelty of the lockdown is definitely wearing off for people of all ages and all interests. I would let your DD have a break if she wants. The Associates might actually give her a bit of a boost, but if she doesn't want to be doing loads of online classes or whatever then I wouldn't push the issue. Everyone is going to take time to adjust when normal classes return - she isn't going to get left behind or anything, and at that age she will probably bounce right back when she gets going again.
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