I agree, which I think makes the subjective aspects of these discussions rather valueless. We all have different experiences/expectations/needs, even within families - my three children all went to different schools, decisions taken as a family with as little regard as possible to external chatter and opinion.
If I were to offer any advice, and I wouldn't presume anyone should take it, it would be to sit one on one with the headmaster (or as appropriate) at any chosen school and ask your questions and make any decisions based upon how you feel that conversation goes.