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  1. @Anna C is right I really want the specifics of all aspects of identity for the school, my child, other children to remain anonymous; or at least as anonymous as possible. I will post an update once the SI has finished.
  2. My child has at least enough awareness of their areas of difficulty to know not to even enter into this, but lots of children don’t and would feel awful with this approach. You are right though, this way of teaching is outdated for exactly the reasons you have outlined. I’m all for healthy competition but there are better ways that get better results from all students equally.
  3. The non-residential students have all been allocated a dorm and a bed and a locker. The lock in occurred because the key code changes daily but my child did not know this so only had the old code and couldn’t get out for class.
  4. Thankyou all for your responses I feel much calmer now. I will talk to the Intensive Coordinator once the week has finished. I will post once I receive their feedback. I want to end by saying this post was not about my child’s SEN, there were other children involved and on the receiving end of the teachers displeasure. Slow processing speed has nothing to do with intelligence, it is linked to Dyslexia, and means some children have difficulty accessing stored information quickly. It is a SpLD. The points allocated were not the issue, it was the divisive use of the points that bothered me. The school have made all the adjustments required for my child’s SEN. This has never been an issue in any aspect of their involvement with my child, they have been outstanding in this area as they should be as what they offer is outlined in their SEN report.
  5. My child’s additional needs do not manifest themselves in that way. My child wasn’t the only child who didn’t receive applause, but as per forum guidelines we can only write about our child’s direct experience when talking about vocational schools. This is not about my child’s SEN, this was about the teachers behaviour. And yes you are right if my child had sensory issues around noise he would not be dancing. Usually noise sensitivity with autism is when the child is under particular additional stresses, and also it is usually particular sounds, not all sounds.
  6. I Know myself well enough to realise I won’t be able to leave it alone. I will wait until my child has finished the week. Something similar happened one time when my child was a JA that was brought to my attention by another parent and I let it go then. It’s a strange position to be in as parent, usually I am assertive and a strident advocate for my child. The ballet world has me somewhat disempowered, and I think it is one because my child has SEN and I know this makes aspects of their dance life more tricky to navigate, and two because I don’t want to ruin their path through training by what might be something that is just part of the fabric and culture of vocational training schools. its certainly has me thinking lots today.
  7. @joyofdance this approach has nothing to do with discipline; it is toxic, and IMO emotionally abusive. It gives our children the wrong message, the wrong aims, and creates vulnerabilities and divisions in an already highly pressurised, competitive environment. @SissonneDoublee you are right, this is only a week, but for the children who are subjected to this on a regular basis so that it because their normal worries me a great deal.
  8. I just want to clarify my child is having a fabulous time, but this approach got into their head in a way that shouldn’t happen in a child so young. They love ballet enough to bound into the school today raring to go again. It is me that is cross 😡
  9. My child is asleep in our hotel room within 5 minutes of getting into bed. This. Never. Happens!! 😁
  10. I was going to speak to someone informally this morning about the dorm incident, but as for the reason you have highlighted, I thought better of it. And it’s only 5 days!
  11. Yes it would have been my child’s number one choice, the plan is/was for them to apply for full-time Y9. The whole aim of this week was to give just a little taster of what it might be like in full-time training, and for me to see how my child manages. They are managing just fine, but it was me that this riled a lot. They are Home Educated, so a school setup would be something they would have to adapt to again for vocational. An Intensive is a perfect little taster of that. And also for them to have an immense amount of fun whilst doing something they really love and are passionate about. Nothing would put my child off ballet, nothing, but as a parent it raises red flags for me. And yes other children had been applauded. I will reserve full judgement until the end of the week. I posted as I was cross for the children exposed to this kind of nonsense, which unfortunately has the power to knock immature minds off balance early on. I don’t want my child to compete with their peers, not yet anyway, and not in the classroom when dancing; they have always been taught to admire and adapt the dancing of others that they find beautiful or done really well.
  12. Yes my dc does have slow processing speed, so knows not to even attempt to enter that arena. They know they would never be quick enough. This wasn’t the issue for them, it was the awareness that the teacher was pitting children with points against those without. They are incredibly perceptive and sensed an adversarial quality to the classes, and to them it felt ‘off.’
  13. I have read the guidelines about posting experiences from vocational schools. If I get the tone or content of the post wrong, then I am more than happy for the post to be removed. if I don’t post I will explode with annoyance!! my child is on their first ever Summer Intensive. They have the same teacher each day for classical and repertoire. My child came out yesterday really subdued and down which is very very unusual. The previous day they had been effervescent with excitement, Ballet makes them happy always! i asked if they wanted to talk about anything, and they said, points for given to children answering questions quickly and accurately and then the children with the points were given 100% focus of that teacher’s attention in each class over and above everyone else for the rest of the day. my child was 5 minutes late to their afternoon class because they got locked in their dorm room and had to be let out by a member of staff. Apologies for given for being late, but whilst then dancing, even during a solo the teacher would not make any eye contact with my child, and did not allow the class to clap when they had finished their piece. as an adult I get this kind of teaching approach, I don’t like it but I know it goes on. as a parent on the other hand, I was seething. Mind games in Primary School children is not IMO ever a good approach to teaching. i asked my child how all this had left them feeling, they said, ‘like I was rubbish, and my dancing was rubbish.’ They felt like they had to keep trying harder to get back the attention that had been withdrawn, but to no avail. thankgoodness my child is non-res or they would have had to manage that themselves. There is no way my 11 yr old could emotionally process what was happening without support. Neither would I want them to. others incidents occurred with the same teacher, but with other children so I know I can’t post that here, but experiences of my child were not isolated to him alone. is this type of approach usual/normal in people’s experience on here? it is the first time my child has encountered anything like this. worryingly the teacher is one of the top ballet teachers in the school. it will be interesting to see if this style of teaching continues until the end of the Intensive? It left me with a nasty conflicted feeling all night, because children don’t understand these type of emotional mind games they are not ready for them developmentally. Even as an adult they wouldn’t leave me feeling very comfortable but at least I would know what they were. apologies again if the post contravenes any guidelines.
  14. I have had a very reassuring conversation with the Intensive organiser Ana Carlsen. She has been lovely. The issues for my child are never the dancing, it’s the other bits that are trickier for them to navigate; but only initially. Found out the class will consist of 28 children, 18 of which are JA’s, so my child will probably know most of them. 5 are non-residential. My child super excited now which is a relief. 😁
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