Lisa O`Brien Posted May 25, 2018 Share Posted May 25, 2018 (edited) I have a good friend I have known since primary and secondary school. Although we were not really close while at school, over the years via social media we have become so. We have opened up to each other and confided in each other. She is warm, kind, caring and a wife and mother to three wonderful sons. Her youngest, who is now eight years old, has been home schooled by her for the past two years. The child claimed to have had his head shoved down a toilet by older children and he cried and refused to return to school. The school investigated and found no evidence whatsoever that the incident ever took place. However my friend, like most mothers wanted to do what was best for her child. The boy begged his parents not to send him back to school. Instead of finding a different school for him, they ( mainly the mother) have kept him off school ever since. The school used to telephone and threaten them with prosecution all the time, but now over a year has passed and they have stopped ringing. She has a set itinerary for him each day and she plans his lessons at specific times. She also takes him to trampolining lessons and nature lessons/trips to places and meet ups with other home schooled children. She said she has not seen her son as happy in years. Now this is my dilemna and I have had it for over a year now. My friend's spelling, punctuation and grammar are awful. Every post she makes, almost on a daily basis, are littered with the most basic of spelling mistakes and grammar mistakes. Really basic things. Now i'm not perfect at the English language; far from it. Yet I am not educating an eight year old daily either. I am concerned she doesn't realise and is passing those errors on to her youngest. In every post she puts commas where apostrophes are supposed to be and vice versa. For instance when she writes we've, instead she writes we,ve. When she writes i'm , instead she writes i,m. Today she wrote "On are way home" instead of our. Now, i'm assuming that nobody has so far pointed any of this out to her. Do I say something, in the nicest way possible? For the sake of her educating her young son? As a 50 year old, it probably no longer matters how her spelling and grammar are. Yet to that little boy, when I think of how she must be teaching him the wrong things, it makes me concerned. If he goes to a school when he is 11, ( and she said she will decide nearer the time whether to continue home-schooling him at that age or not), how far behind is he going to be? Am I doing her and her son a massive disservice in NOT saying something now before he gets any older? Will she be offended and upset I have pointed this out to her? Will she be upset if or when her son reaches secondary school and is unable to spell or use grammar correctly, that nobody had the decency to tell her beforehand? If it was me and it was my child being educated at home by me, if I were making such simple mistakes in my teaching with him I would jolly well want to know, sooner rather than later. I haven't seen her face to face to speak to in over 30 years. So I don't know how she would take it. Do I say nothing, and just let her carry on ? What would other people do? Many thanks. ( Sorry it's so long). x Edited May 25, 2018 by Lisa O`Brien Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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