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  1. I agree with your comment but don’t think she’s exposed to this kind of content as doesn’t have IG or Facebook. I think much of what she views happens at dance and her needing to not get caught up in the “self-promotion” you describe. That being said, I try to promote that she celebrates others successes (we always talk about Brenee Browns metaphor of “candle blower-outers”, have a look if you’ve not come across it) but also give her the time to recognise it’s ok to feel disappointed when things don’t go your way/as you’d hoped. Comparison is a big part of the problem, I’ve no doubt. I think that’s what maybe make her so hard on herself xx
  2. No major changes that I can think of… defiantly some comparison going on and not feeling “good enough” at times. She seems to have lost her fun/playful side and dancing has become a part of that. She has a 2 teachers, quite different in their approaches but I’d say the same problem exists with both teachers. Xx
  3. Yes, her teacher was the person who actually brought it up and said she wanted to help her through this but it doesn’t seem to be improving sadly xx
  4. Difficult to say if that’s the right solution, I feel she would say no- She adores her teacher but perhaps it’s worth thinking about if competitions are something she would like to continue with longer term. I have mixed feelings about them, it’s a strange world and changes the relationship with dance.
  5. Thank you very much for your insight. Really appreciate everything you have said. I don’t think it’s self-consciousness in a physical sense (although definitely seeing lots of that in the class at the moment given the age), I think it’s more about how she see’s herself (or her peers/teachers do) in terms of ability and this kind of puts her in head when dancing as she can’t seem to stay in the moment if that makes sense? Xx
  6. Thank you., I appreciate your reply, good to know this is something others have experienced and your suggestions are really helpful. She certainly likes to give the impression she’s strong/a trooper and will often use humour to diffuse these tricker moment in class instead of saying, “I’m really struggling with this step…” for example. As she dances competitively within her school she is exposed to the same student “winning” pretty much every section/title and although she enjoys comps she doesn’t necessarily need them to get what she needs from dance but I understand her despondency when she feels like she’s never “good enough” in this context. She adores her associate program and teacher and this really feels like a safe haven. I do think more nurture is needed at this point and hoping this will bring back her sparkle xx
  7. Thank you for your reply. She certainly views dance as something she would like to become a career eventually. I agree with the notion of self-sabotage and think this could be a possibility for her. She doesn’t have a strong sense of who she is and almost won’t allow herself to be free in dance as she’s worried about getting it “wrong” or disappointing her teacher/embarrassing herself in front of her peers. Which isn’t the case. Thank you for your suggestions, these might be helpful in getting a dialogue going between us xx
  8. Thank you for your reply, I’ve found this age the trickiest to navigate with her as there’s clearly so much going on but she doesn’t seem to have the words to articulate it or struggles to explain to me. I think the latter is definitely problematic for her as there’s quite a bit of comparing going on between herself and one particular student (the other student is extremely gifted and viewed as the best/most advanced student in the school without a shadow of doubt). Xx
  9. Hey everyone, My 12 year old daughter (who has danced from a young age) has started to feel really self-conscious when dancing in front of others. For example; in class, performances etc. She describes worries about being judged negatively by her classmates for her ability and is concerned they won’t feel she is “good enough” (there is zero evidence to support this concern). Her teacher has gave feedback regarding her lack of connection in class despite doing all of the correct movements/working hard, she just can’t seem to get out of her head at the moment. I’m really hoping this is just a tricky phase given her age and trying to help her navigate this with lots of support and encouragement as she loves to dance and is becoming increasingly frustrated with this issue. Does anyone have any experience of this, advice or reading recommendations? I really want to support her through this and help her to stop seeing herself as an object to be judged by other people and start to believe in herself again. Thanks you so much for any help you can offer xx
  10. Thanks @Jan McNulty I think you’re right! I was hoping there would be some people selling on as it was the end of term last week. Never mind. Thanks again x
  11. Just wondering if this post is visible as I have referenced BW in title and may have accidentally breached the guidance... can any admin advise please? ☺️
  12. Hi There, I was wondering if anyone had the prescribed black leotard, hoodie or crop and shorts for sale to fit 9-10 year old? ☺️ Thanks so much x
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