@taxi2ballet
No parent should harbour the blame. As parents we can only look, listen, take he’d what others say. Look at the Sats, the practices of care in place. But even then; it’s all glossy.
However once a Parent does find out something is wrong. That’s when the said parent speaks at great length to their child. Reassure that no matter what, you believe them, comfort. From then.. work out what’s the next steps will be.
Trust me it’s a lot easier said than done. As the PA World is very fickle. Not much Independant governance. Positions of ppl do use their power.
That’s were the need for change must be.