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    Living at The Hammond

    That’s a shame, I’m sorry to hear that Pictures & hope your DD regains her confidence very soon........ the highs and lows of vocational training never end !! x
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    Living at The Hammond

    So looking forward to watching the show on Saturday Dancing Unicorn and it’s lovely that they’ve incorporated a tribute to Errol Pickford . DS says the show is amazing !!
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    Oliver’s story

    There are no words Primrose to describe how utterly heartbreaking your sons story is. A beautiful young man who had his whole life ahead of him. My husband and I are so so sorry and hope you & your family find even just a little strength from the support of your ballet forum friends. Signed & verified Take care xxx
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    Living at The Hammond

    Thanks both of you 😊
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    Living at The Hammond

    Does anyone know what time the last end of term dance show finishes on Saturday 14th July ? Was wondering if they do a matinee and an evening performance on the last day or just a matinee ?? Thanks all 😊
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    English Youth Ballet 2017-18

    Hi ArucariaBallerina - just the boost you needed at just the right time . Well done you for not giving in despite your recent disappointments. Full scholarship to boot !! Delighted for you 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼x
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    Auditioning without teachers permission

    Ive never understood this myself, but it seems to be often the case. When our DS auditioned for all 4 vocational schools a few years ago - it was really apparent to him in the finals that he was the only boy who wasn’t an associate somewhere. At the time - we didn’t know that associate schemes existed and it certainly wasn’t encouraged by his dance school. I can understand totally why teachers would be reluctant for their students to train with multiple schools for their general classes, but associate schemes and productions like EYB and MTB for example (in my opinion) offer fantastic experience - new friendships with like-minded DC (especially boys who might be the only boy at their dance school ), having to adapt to different teaching styles and with EYB/MTB etc - the opportunity to train, rehearse & perform in a full on ballet production ....... surely this experience can only benefit the students ? There does remain the reluctance of some dance teachers to encourage this - it crops up from time to time on this forum and I’ve never managed to work out why !! Surely it’s a win, win all round . Teachers should be able to see their student improving & gaining confidence, students should be able to enjoy & experience something a little different to their normal classes & parents shouldn’t have to act all cloak & dagger !! Maybe I’m missing something 🤪
  8. That’s a good idea pictures !! wasnt sure if you could carry on with the lessons (Lamda/vocal) without sitting the exams . That’s something we could consider x
  9. Yes Sarah - you’re right, he always seems to have a lot going on and that is something we are looking at . We’re going to review things term by term . He had some health worries from historical health problems last term and further surgery was being considered . Thankfully it’s been decided surgery is not in his best interests at the moment . This was a major worry for him. When I take a step back and look at the whole picture - it’s no wonder he is struggling !! He is usually master of putting a brave face on which is why he can be hard to read . Maybe he hasn’t the energy/ capability of wearing that brave face at the moment & it has become more apparent to us. ......... we’ll do whatever is needed to take the pressure off . He seems better for just getting everything off his chest. He even smiled at me this morning saying “stop worrying mum - I’ll be fine” - we’ll trust his judgement I guess until we have reason not to xx
  10. I think this thread has also highlighted that even when a DC is fundamentally happy with the school , dance training , teachers and academics coupled with actually doing well & achieving goals - it isn’t easy - it can be fabulous at times, stressful & challenging at other times . This is compounded I think by boarding and that feeling of no escape !! Useful for other parents & DC to know that everyone struggles from time to time .....even if appearances would never suggest it. Yesterday - all we felt as parents was everything going pear shaped, a subdued son who was expressing serious doubt about continuing. Why was he feeling like this despite doing so well with great reports & loving dancing ?? The posts on here have really helped us to look at things from different perspectives which led to a really open discussion with him. We now understand the reasons why he’s feeling this way - even he feels it just simply a bit of a “bump in the road” and that it’s something he wants to work through. Thank you to all the forum members Xx
  11. I’m coming to that conclusion CeliB. I’m aware our DS has had a couple of mini panic attacks at school where he has gone to the toilets and splashed his face with water .... and the feelings have passed !! I also know a high up member of staff is aware & has been/continues to be excellent support for our DS - so it has been recognised by the school as well. I think our DS is a worrier and always probably will be . We had a really good conversation last night and it boils down to the constant pressure he feels under. academic, Lamda, musical theatre, RAD exams, dance assessments, rehearsals for shows & performing in shows and then boarding with certain difficult personality types. At times he says he feels completely overwhelmed as he wants to do the best he can in everything. He loves the school, says he finds it hard but DOES wish to continue as his love of dancing is worth it. We will continue to watch over him, talk with him & assess things regularly. I think as parents we will need to accept his need to off load & realise this may just be how his journey proceeds ....... for as long as he wishes xx
  12. Thankfully our DS hasn't had any such problem with any teacher at his school. That sounds just awful - your DS must be very strong & resilient to have coped with that . I know our DS would really struggle with teacher bullying as I think he & all DC at the end of the day wish to please their teachers. Well done to your DS & glad to hear he's managed to work through his problems 👏🏻👏🏻 You're totally right when you say our son may feel under enormous pressure ...... he does , but it's pressure he puts on himself as he's very self critical . He used to watch some of his performances back on DVDs etc - but now refuses & cringes when they are put on - only because he finds constant fault with his technique or performance etc. Hooefully this is just a combination of his age & a bit of self doubt creeping in and questioning what the future holds. Would just add - he's just returned after a day's hard dancing ......... and loved it !! ........ totally different mind set again !! He's so up & down - and we as parents are going up & down with him .......... where's the wine !! Thanks everyone x
  13. Thanks Sarah , that’s useful to know x
  14. Thanks Ellie - very useful, will get DS to read it 😊
  15. Thanks Pictures , that would be really helpful as always - I'm sure it must affect other DC here on the forum too ! x
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