grumpybearzuk

I agree about giving feedback to hundreds of children would be hard but it would be nice to give you some feedback when your child has trained with them as a associate for 3 years and not even getting to the finals

Hi I know what you are going through ! My dd only auditioned at Elmhurst for year 7as that was the only school she wanted to go to and as being a associate there for 3 years she desperately wanted to go there full time. But we got a no to finals even though she has always got glowing reports and is a beautiful dancer and perfect physique! We still have not had feedback even though we have been promised it so she still questions why but now we have had time to calm down and had talks with her lovely dance teacher at home she has realised that now she gets to train with her friends at home and her training at home is excellent , and we also as a family keep her with us for a little longer and she's always been a mummy's girl so more cuddles for me . There are lots of girls at my dd local ballet school who didn't get in at year 7 who have gone on to successfully audition and get places in year 8 upwards and a lot have chose to keep training here and then audition at 6th form and have gone on to some wonderful ballet schools so there is always that option. I know as a mum how you feel and I think ive gone though all the emotions this last few months but it has got better for us and there are a lot of positives for her staying st home:) ( my dds is she will learn pointe with her beloved ballet teacher she has had since 4!) Just keep reassuring your beautiful dd and giving lots of cuddles and love ☺️ Xxx

My dd drives me nuts with constantly asking when her teacher will let her get her first pointe shoes!! But I trust her teacher to let her when she knows she's ready. She turned 11 in October and has been studying inter foundation for 2 years so I think we are nearly there ????. Her teacher said when she goes to grade 6 in March that's when she will decide ????. But no rush for me but you can't tell that to a 11 year old !! She even dreams of pointe shoes????

Hi -talariumsaltator Thank you for your words ???? We are very lucky as we have excellent training here and have a lovely lady who is my mums friend who trained with royal ballet who is helping her privately with other things that she maybe doesn't get chance in class so I think personally now we realise this is not the end of the world and she can still train and grow up with her beloved ballet teacher????. I think you just get pulled along with it all and don't get chance to properly think but she is not upset at all and is now putting everything in to taking her grade 5 exam and upcoming school show . To be honest I'm still mad with Elmhurst as still had no feedback as was promised and just feel what is the point of training with them 3 years and always doing well in assessments , why she didn't get to finals?? So feedback would help me to accept it even though my dd is not particularly bothered now.

I think if we didn't have the training she has here locally then I would be worried now but her teacher provides excellent training and I think her training at home will be better for her as I know she will be happy and has been with her school since 4 so has grown up with her dance friends. I'm a true believer in things happen for a reason and today I have seen the silver lining , I think also my dd desperately wants to start pointe work and will love it even more with her dance teacher xxx good luck everyone xxx

Thanks for all the kind words:), when I told her she was a little upset but said oh well I love my ballet teacher here more!! Elmhurst was the only vocational school she was interested in so didn't bother auditiong for anywhere else. I spoke to her teacher here and she said my dd had told her she didn't think she wanted to leave home yet and wanted to do all her grades with her and then try for sixth form . And had lovely feedback from her saying she is a beautiful dancer and and is very talented she just had to work on her confidence and performance but she thinks that will come with age as she has lots of potential. Her local teacher is amazing and lots of her students go to vocational school at 16. So now we have thought about it I'm happy having her with me for longer ☺️

Thank you for your kind words feeling a bit better now I've calmed down a bit. At times like this I question why I do this but what can you do when your child wants to keep doing it! At least I have good news to give her after the bad , her teacher is putting her in for her grade 5 exam . Hopefully will give Her a little smile xx

My dd got a no for finals for year 7 sometimes I don't see the point of being a associate with them for 3 years and not giving her a chance. She is such a beautiful dancer but not overly smiley I am upset to be honest and not looking forward to giving her the news

Thank you thequays waiting for assessment so hopefully progressing now ! Would be nice to get back to a little normality x

Cross fingers for everyone not been on here for a while as not been well but hope everything is going well for everyone☺️Just got back from my dd audition and was very exciting . She's only auditioned for elmhurst as she only wants to try for there so now anxiously waiting for letter xxx

Really good points made there I was thinking the same thing! Tried to point out to her that my son was best friends with someone from nursery age and when it came to secondary school , they both went to the same one and after a few weeks had both got completely new friends and I don't think he ever sees him now. We have just put our application in for secondary schools as we both knew where she was going if she didn't go ballet school and there is no rush yet so thanks to you guys I feel a little lighter!! And will bring it up on a few weeks. She did day to me in the car to ballet tonight that she wants to stay with her local dance teacher and doesn't want to leave me and have reassured her that if she doesn't want to go then that's fine with me I just have to make sure she's 100% sure but like most people have said there's no stopping her trying at 16 . Thank you so much everyone for all the comments it has made me relax a little and I realise I have some time to play with yet:) I would keep both my kids with me forever if I could xxx

That's lovely pups mum I love her to bits and just want to make sure she's happy , thank you all for your advice and comments it feels better just getting my feelings out as I was bottling it up! And it's great here as I know I can get some very valued opinions xxxx

Thank you Fiz I am finding it hard to fight but I am trying different methods so am hoping something will work for me and started back at gym again as that helped me so much but my anxiety stopped me going! Take care xxx

Thanks everyone for your advice and thoughts . I think I will not mention it for a couple of weeks and then have a relaxed chat with her, she is back at elmhurst tomorrow so it might help her decision . And I'm sure her ballet teacher will give some advice . She has always been clingy to me so I knew this might happen and maybe my illness had affected her more than I thought but I have always tried to stay positive for her and I won't push her if it's something she has decided on Xx

Hi everyone I really need some advice as at the minute can't think clearly as off work with depression and anxiety . My dd is 11 next month and has been dancing since 4 with the same ballet teacher, she has been a associate at Elmhurst since year 4 and loves it so much she is a beautiful dancer and you could say has the body too and has always wanted to audition full time at Elmhurst . Well now the time has come to audition she has decided she wants to now go normal school and stay with her local ballet teacher (who she loves) . I am really surprised as all she has ever talked about is going to ballet school. I asked her why she had changed her mind and she said she will miss her ballet teacher and obviously me !! I just don't want her regretting her decision to not audition and then later on change her mind but but she's adamant she won't audition. Her training at home is good so not too worried am I doing the right thing by leaving it and not discussing more with her ? Any advice would be appreciated xxx