Kat09

I’ll message you - please don’t worry.

A crystal ball would have been useful

Thank you so much 😊

My Ex DD left vocational school a term before graduation - left with nothing - a devastating time but let’s FF 5 years. After some hospitality and a ski season in the alps, a second ski season and subsequent Covid took her to enrol on line for some digital marketing courses/diplomas - not university and not OTT expensive. From these she was offered a digital marketing apprenticeship- not completed as tbh she recognised it was not helpful. On walking away, she was offered a marketing entry level position with a local company , 1 year later she made the move back to London to a well known estate agency chain - digital marketing executive. 18 months on and she’s just landed an amazing marketing management position at Sothebys Residential - I’m so so proud of her - she was broken by the ballet system and has put herself back together, she can recognise the transferable skill that her ballet training gave her and has utilised those to great affect. She harbours no bitterness or regret for her time at BS (me , that’s another matter!) The drive that took her to ballet school has returned - there is definitely life after the ballet - just go and grab it - your training and experiences are greatly valued by future employers. 😊

The girls used to be able to stay at Queen Alexandra House in Kensington. It was affordable at the time with a variety of rooms. All the ENBS girls were along the same corridor. Meals were included but quite often the girls weren’t back in time for the evening - kitchens were also available for them to self cater.

Yes and yes!! Thank goodness we are out the other side - there really is a great life outside of the ballet world - I just wish that the ballet schools would promote that to those who might decide not to pursue the ballet dream or have to, out of necessity change direction. These young dancers have so many transferable skills, so much to offer - there is no need to crush and destroy their self belief and self worth. Nor , I might add, their love of dance 😢

I think that the problem is , often that no two individuals are the same. A cohort of dancers enter the school and during the 3 years (talking US) follow the same path. Some thrive and some wither. This is why these teachers feel that they do no wrong - they don’t believe in nurture, they believe in doing what they have always done. Those that aren’t tough and resilient are seen as weak - the insidious passive aggressive comments start in the classroom, weaknesses rather than strengths are identified - self doubt creeps in and spirals - there is no safety net , the gap between the achievers and the also ran widens. Parental involvement is discouraged before ,suddenly, a big black hole appears and it’s too late to stop the spiral of despair - another young life broken, dreams shattered and families left to pick up the pieces. The schools can’t wait for the broken to leave, before graduation if possible, so graduate placements and school success aren’t affected. If you think that you can shield and protect your young dancers, believe me you are wrong - I tried - I failed - it’s been a long road to recovery - I feel for everyone of these young dancers affected and their parents. We’ve been out of the system for a good few years now but every year there are new examples of a regime that has little interest in change - there are far too many that want to chase their dream whatever the cost, to make a change of policy worthwhile. panorama is the tip of the iceberg, body shaming just one part of the puzzle, there is so much more that needs addressing.

It does doesn’t it - sadly this tutor has moved to another of the big institutions- I do hope that she has reflected on the delivery of her dialogue.

Exactly this - I was told by my daughters form teacher that “your daughter must hate to look at herself in the mirror everyday” perhaps the worst day of my life!! For clarity this was not at Elmhurst or RBS

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My advice is to change her school & I don’t say that without knowledge of how difficult that is. If the tutor continues as is , no amount of counselling will change the outcome. Your daughter needs to be away for any healing to occur. The sooner the better . best wishes and good luck.

Pascale Autrand www.Pascale-autrand.com based in France but fluent in English and will work over zoom. Highly recommend.

You could check out balletcat.com (ballet de catalunya) we know of a dancer who was there for a year who moved to ballet de montecarlo and is now with Bordeaux Ballet. She highly rated her time with ballet de catalunya. good luck to your DD

Tring has an excellent ballet staff 1 of which used to be 2nd/3rd year ladies tutor at ENBS.